During PRIDE Week, we asked YOU to submit anonymous questions to our DUSA Queer Society, so without further ado, here they are! Happy reading.
- What does LGBTI stand for?
LGBTI is an acronym for Lesbian, Gay, Bi-sexual, Transgender and Inter-sex. A good place to find some more information is the Diversity Australia website, which can be found here: https://www.diversityaustralia.com.au/lgbtqi/
- I’ve been openly bi for 5 years, the last 3 I’ve been in hetero presenting relationships. I know that I’m bi but I feel like a fraud. How do I validate myself?
Let me start off by saying that you are not alone in feeling this. Unfortunately, many bi individuals feel the need to validate themselves and their sexuality. I want to make it clear that you do not need to validate yourself to anyone. Other individuals are not walking in your shoes and may not feel the way you do. Instead, ask yourself how you can become more comfortable in your own skin. So you have been in a hetero presenting relationship for 3 years. That’s great! If you are still attracted, then there is no reason to feel like a fraud. Remember, being comfortable in your skin will take time, but the need for validation will fade.
- Where can I find a safe space on campus?
All campuses have a Women’s safe space, and Burwood and Waurn Ponds have a Queer Safe Space. These are autonomous spaces where it is expected individuals utilising them do so in a respectful manner. The locations of the Safe Spaces can be found here: https://dusa.org.au/our-services/. Each safe space has an agreement which can be found inside the spaces, near the entrance. If you would like more information about the spaces, you can email the Welfare Officer at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Can an Ally join the DPQS?If you are an ally to the community, you are more the welcome to join DPQS or DGQC. The aim of the DPQS and DGQC is to provide a safe space for queer identifying people and their allies. Allies are extremely important for the queer community.
- How to navigate asking for pronouns?
If you’re unsure which pronoun a person uses, listen first to the pronoun other people use when referring to them. Someone who knows the person well will probably use the correct pronoun. If you must ask which pronoun the person uses, start with your own. For example, “Hi, I’m Alex and I use the pronouns he and him”. Here is an interesting link on pronouns you might be interested in – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xpvricekxU or try this linked guide on what pronouns are, why they matter, and how to use new ones and support your Trans friends! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3ZzpTxjgRw&t=
- Is LGBTIQ or LGBTI+ or LGBTIQ+ correct?
I don’t think there is any one way to use the acronym. All of them are correct, so I guess it depends on how much of the community you want to acknowledge in your usage. I find for myself, I tend to use LGBTIQ+ a lot but it really is subjective. If you wanted to speak directly about the Pansexual community or otherwise, you could extend the acronym to include the “P”, but ultimately it’s up to you.
Any iteration mentioned above is an appropriate way to reference the queer community. However, the most recent and inclusive abbreviation would likely be: LGBTQIA+. Ideally, any reference should include the ‘+’ symbol to account for the various terms considered under the queer umbrella.
All questions answered by the DUSA Queer Community.